As you prepare for the incredible journey of natural childbirth birth, it’s natural for thoughts of “what if” to pop up. These “what ifs” can reflect our inner worries and doubts, but they can also become an opportunity—a chance to shift focus and build a mindset rooted in calm, trust, and empowerment.
Here are some common “what ifs” you may have found yourself thinking:
1. What if I feel overwhelmed during labor?
2. What if my birth experience is different from my plan?
3. What if something unexpected happens?
4. What if I don’t feel strong enough?
5. What if I’m not ready for this?
These thoughts are not your truth—they’re just thoughts, a reflection of your natural desire for everything to go beautifully. The key is to notice them without judgment and shift them into positive possibilities that guide your energy toward what you want.
Natural Childbirth 101 programs will help you to achieve a level of awareness and tools to reduce the what if's while empowering your path.
👍 Turning “What Ifs” Into Empowerment
When you feel a “what if” arise, imagine flipping it on its head. Instead of “What if I feel overwhelmed during labor?” try “What if I feel deeply supported and find my rhythm?” It’s not about ignoring the unknown—it’s about choosing to trust your body, your baby, and your journey.
Here’s an example of reframing:
- Original thought: What if I’m not ready for this?
- New thought: What if I’m more ready than I realize, and I’ll rise to meet this with love and courage?
Each time you shift a thought, you create space for confidence and a sense of calm.
❤️ 3 Steps to Focus on What You Want
1. Notice the Thought and Breathe
When a “what if” arises, pause and take a deep breath. Simply noticing the thought is powerful—it gives you the chance to guide it.
2. Shift the Focus to Positivity
Gently ask yourself, “What would I like instead?” Turn the thought into a positive possibility that feels aligned with what you truly desire.
3. Visualize Your Ideal Experience
Spend a moment each day imagining your birth as a beautiful, empowering journey. Picture yourself feeling calm, surrounded by love, and meeting each moment with grace. This practice helps train your heart and mind to focus on the beauty ahead.
You have everything within you to create an amazing experience—your body’s wisdom, your baby’s strength, and your ability to guide your thoughts toward what uplifts and supports you. Trust this process, and know that you are fully capable.
With love and positivity,
Kaleem Joy , Licensed Midwife, mother, grandmother and mentor to aspiring parents.
Natural Childbirth 101 programs will help you to achieve a level of awareness and tools to reduce the what if's while empowering your path.
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